The Friendship Reprise

Been doing a lot of thinking about friendships and how quickly they can be formed and how even quicker they can fall apart. From an old entry written over a year ago...

Ultimately, a friend is someone who you can lean on for support and they can lean on you. It sounds simple, but that’s all there is to it. And yet, everyone needlessly complicates such a basic premise. Be there for you, I’ll be there for you. I know I’m not the best at forging relationships, but I’m still at quite a loss as to what actually creates lasting bonds. Is it just an innate compatibility among friends? Is it a unique shared experience that binds people together? Or is it something… more?
The best of friends are those who understand me. In other words, they can parse out the bullshit from reality, and force me to deal with issues and events that may otherwise remain buried. I can say whatever I want to them and they won’t get offended or bitchy; instead they’ll throw it right back.
Friendship is not an unwillingness to sacrifice even a second of your time for a friend. It is not the pointless “how was your day?” and “fine” conversations that loveless marriages are made out of. It is not going out together many nights in a row. It is not judging someone time and time again for little reason than spite. It is not an an inability to recognize when friends are going through a rough time.

Friendship is sacrificing time for a friend, because they need you. It is the 2 a.m. conversations where all is laid bare. It is spending a minute, a day, a month with them merely because you know that it’ll be a good night as long as they’re with you. It is dispensing objective advice without scorn, even though it is likely that said advice will never be followed. It is an unconscious ability and willingness to
ask, “what’s wrong” even if they’re aren’t shouting their feelings from the rooftops.

Friendships are what they are. Hold on to the ones you have, and try and nurture a few more while you’re at it. Life is too short to waste on lifeless nights, dull conversations, and false friends.

Great Moments in Male Friendship

Me:
blargh
american women suck
J:
oh yeah?
Me:
no real reason to say it
just needs to be said
i mean, dont get me wrong
ALL women are crazy
but american women are the craziest
J:
naturally
we had a big party last night
and i have a couple leads im workin on now
Me:
see, i've been out of the party scene for awhile now
and I was like
hey, i'm going to try and talk to these girls sober
jesus christ that is a terrible idea
J:
i mean, these are all girls i've known for a while but havent been able to act toward cuz i've been in a relationship til now
Me:
ah
yes
go man go!
score for all of us
J:
workin on it!
Me:
yeah, i'm fairly sure "getting to know them" is a dumb, dumb tactic
"lets go out for coffee" might as well be "here are my balls, please take them from me"
J:
last night i was doin well i thought then this one girls roommates made her leave...then another i was even more sure i was in but i think itll happen another day
hahaah
yupp
Me:
its just a fact
drunk steve has more game than sober steve
J:
oh same here
no question
Me:

i'm half thinking of learning to fake a british accent so I can get tail in canada
J:
ho damn
such an actor
Me:
heh
if only if only
but seriously, this country is driving me to celibacy
it's like I had an abundance of riches thrown at my feet, and then I woke up one day and the goods were shoddier and the prices higher
J:
oh man
i mean its not THAT bad here
Me:
haha
dont mind me, I'm just bitter
A and I are just kinda... whatever
she was sick this week and i was busy so we havent talked all wee
and I ended up halfassedly asking out another girl
who... eh
and most of the guys I know down here are of the "sensitive, love and respect girls and they will love you back" philosophy
which is why it's great to get online and talk to you and just say "'dem girls are crazy bitches"
J:
hahah
oh yes
but i am A SINGLE GUY WHAT THE HELL
Me:
see, eventually that becomes IM A SINGLE GUY.... MEH
J:
haha word
i have prospects now at least...in chi its gonna be rough
Me:
bars
yeah, i have no idea
i'll be shooting blind in canada
but I do my best work that way

"If heaven is for clean people, it's vacant"

I'm fairly sure I'm falling apart.